Thursday, October 30, 2014

Day 30 ~ Connection (confessions of a recovering connection addict)


I have a love/hate relationship with connection. I love feeling connected to those I care about and I hate seasons of disconnection. I highly value connection.

My tendency is to feel safe, productive and happy when genuine connection is happening. I feel like I can handle anything that comes my way. This is especially true of my connection with Dave.

When we are disconnected, I feel mostly ... fear and insecurity. 

Quite naturally, with very little effort, Dave and I connect well 

          *when we are on vacation. So we love mini
            vacations throughout the year. 

          *when we are on dates, even something as
            simple as a cup of coffee together.

          *when we are in crisis, even a crisis of
            our own making. We become a team,
            spending lots of time talking, praying,
            supporting each other and problem
            solving.
         
It is in our daily normal living that connection is harder, wonky, even sometimes disappointing. This is where we have to have intentional and thoughtful plans. It does not happen naturally.

This used to freak me out, as I often let a normal season of disconnection send me spiraling down a very unhealthy path. It was easy for me to shut down and even easier for me to blame Dave.

In case your wondering, this did not lead me to more connection. (do not try this at home) 

With the help of a therapist, I learned that connection is something that ebbs and flows. No one can be connected all of the time. And I learned healthier ways to ask for what I needed and wanted.

As a third culture kid, I think this will always be a struggle for me ... but an honest look at it has really helped.


Now you know why we love drinking coffee together ... for fun and connection.

How do you stay connected to those you love? 

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Day 23 - 29 ~ Mini vacation in Door County

Right in the middle of my 31 day blogging series and my 28 day clean eating detox ~ we decided to take  some time away from the city and head to Door County, WS for a few days.

Not exactly the best timing for me, but I never miss an opportunity to hang out with my adventuresome husband. Dave is the quintessential tour guide.


Before we even left home, he had already scoped out the best coffee shops along the way. (my one and very fun concession to vacation and detox)


This picture just makes me very happy.  

Door Country is a beautiful peninsula in Wisconsin, with over 300 miles of shoreline. We enjoyed all of it. Beautiful parks, lots of water and gorgeous trees. We went the week after the peak season, to avoid crowds. 




When we were on this hike, I kept saying, "we are NOT in Chicago."



 



So much fun being together ... 

 


We are very wimpy in the drinking department, so we split a wine tasting. (really) And because of the detox, I only had a tiny sip. And Dave did not finish any of them. (I am sure the hostess thought we were nuts)

We also stopped in Green Bay, so Dave could greet one of childhood heros,


 
and, do the lambo leap.


We figured out that if we timed our drive home, we would arrive in Chicago just in time to hear one of my favorite writers, Jan Karon, speak. Miss Karon was southern, charming, very funny and shared her love for Jesus.


It is always hard to come home from a vacation, even a short one. But we came home to this charming next door neighbor. Yup, that helps.


When was the last time you got away?
 


Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Day 22 ~ Us

Dave and I are on a mini-vacation in Door County, WS. We love short breaks and it is always nice to get away from the hub bub of the city for a little while. 



This was a fun moment, as I took a tiny break from my clean eating to enjoy a delicious cup of coffee at Colectivo Coffee in Milwaukee, WS. I passed up tons of other treats and goodies all day ... but boy did I enjoy that coffee.

But mostly ... a day of talking, walking and site seeing with Dave. (my husband is the quintessential tour guide)


Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Day 21 ~ Off

I am off to spend some time with this guy.


And, yes ... coffee drinking will be involved.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Day 20 ~ Monday

It is Monday morning and I am wondering how you feel about Mondays. Which camp are you in this morning, or every Monday?


or

 
Mondays are one of my favorite days of the week. I love fresh starts, new beginnings, clean slates. It is also why I love January.

Fresh starts remind me of one of my favorite verses.

"The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, His mercies never come to an end, they are new every morning, great is Your faithfulness." (Lamentations 3:22-23)

For the past two years, I spend Mondays with my daughter, Jenny and now her daughter, Lillian. We talk, drink tea, prep meals for her week, do a little organizing and take a walk.


I love Mondays.

Which camp are you in?

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Sunday, October 19, 2014

Day 19 ~ Rest (or I love our bedroom)


Yesterday, as I cleaned our apartment, I noticed I was running out of energy. By evening, our home was clean, but I was starting to feel ill.

So today, while Dave is out in the suburbs preaching, I am reading a book ... one I could not wait to get my hands on.


New York Times bestselling author, Jan Karon, has (finally) written another Mitford novel. I love this series and have read it several times.


A  day of resting and drinking tea.



We should all rest when we feel crummy. I am glad the house is spotless. And, when I changed the sheets, I put out my favorite cheery pillowcase ... just perfect for these darker Fall days.



Two years ago, I spoke for a women's retreat at my home church in Seattle. It was delightful to be back and see so many friends.

In my lovely room, was a huge gift basket, full of all my favorititte things. Not many people know I like pillow cases, so I asked who did the gift basket. 

Victoria told me she reads my blog, and had been keeping track of things I mentioned ... pens, note cards, chocolate, nuts, lime green things ... and yes, pillow cases. (how sweet is that)

Pillow cases showed up in my post Top Ten Things I ALWAYS take on a mission trip.

ps. I often buy a book I really want to read, read it very carefully and then give it as a gift. (shhhh ... don't tell)

What do you do when you do not feel well? 



 

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Day 18 ~ Clean eating detox

Have you ever done a 28 day clean eating challenge? 

I have wanted to, so when my niece, Shannon, started working for Arbonne, and invited me to join her next Clean Eating group ... I was all in.

Here is why I chose this plan?

     *The fit kit comes with breakfast and lunch. 
       I get overwhelmed with planning 3 meals a day
       and now I only have to plan one meal.

     *Detoxing is no small thing. This program
       includes tons of supplements to really support
       your liver and your entire body while detoxing.
       (pre and pro-biotics, detox tea, fiber etc.)

     *I sampled the protein shake before I ordered.
       It was delicious.

     *The dinner recipes are delicious and work for
       my family.

     *There is a private Facebook group with 
       great information, recipes, a place to ask
       questions etc.

     *And, Shannon, is super cute and sweet.

Today, I finished day 9. I feel great and it has been pretty easy. I am looking forward to being a little lighter and a lot healthier as the holidays approach.



For the month of October, Shannon is offering a 50% discount off the 30 day fit kit supplies. It is a great deal. Check out her web site, or contact me if you would like her phone number.

I am off to drink another glass of water. 

ps. This is no dairy, no gluten, no caffeine, no sugar. What do I miss the most?
My occasional tall no-foam latte.

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