Sixteen months ago, I left Seattle, where I had oodles of wonderful friends and was only a four and a half hour drive from all of my family.
And, I moved to Chicago, where our daughters live, who happen to be two of my best friends. (Christy moved to England seven months ago, but Jenny still lives just ten minutes away.) But I was starting fresh in the other kind of friends department.
Since I have moved a lot, I know how to do transitions. I am a introvert, but I love people, am very friendly, and make friends easily.
But it was very different, since we chose to live in the city. (most people work, much younger crowd, and no traditional day time women's ministry programs) And we moved just as winter was starting, where people are rarely out of their homes.
I have been lonely. So what did I do?
1. I worked extra hard to meet people, at church, in our neighborhood, in our ministry etc. It has been slow.
2. Skype became my best friend ... as I spent much time "face to face" with friends who really knew me.
3. And virtual friends that I met through my blog, became super important, and I invested in these relationships.
It is hard to describe on-line friends. Calling them "blogging friends," does not do justice to the relationship.
I really care that Sandra lost her husband, that Alicia got settled in her new place, that Sarah is expecting a baby, that Tiffini has the courage to start a new business ... and the list could go on and on.
That is why I love this phrase, "Virtual friends ~ Real sisters." This is a t.shirt that was designed by my virtual friend/real sister, Jen. Jen hosts a wonderful community called Soli Deo Gloria Sisterhood.
You have heard me talk about these lovely ladies before. I call us the Soli Sisters and have found great friendships here.
Skype friends and virtual friends have been my life saver.
So now, sixteen months in ... how is it going for me in the friends department?
*I have found significant ministry
and friendship with the young
women at our church
*One of my blogging friends has
become a face.to.face friend
*We have built fun relationships
with two of our neighbors (darling young
*I have made so many virtual friends,
that it is hard to now find time for all
*I still skype often with friends around
*And, just last week, I realized that for
four days in a row, I met with a real
live person, that knew my name. (and
it was not Dave or Jenny)
I am still not where I want to be (in the friends department)
but this is real progress. And, I am grateful, for sure.
Do you have good friends? enough friends? skype friends? virtual friends? Talk to me.
ps. Hop over to Jen's site to order this cute tee.