Monday, August 19, 2013

Are you in "the cool group?"



I got caught up in a goofy radio show, while I was driving to Jenny's apartment. You know ... the overly exuberant hosts, talking about some silly topic and inviting their listeners to call in with their own stories.

Fortunately, Jenny only lives 10 minutes away, so I did not listen for long.

The topic - the main reason that women feel fear when they drop their kids off at preschool ... they are afraid of the women that are in the "cool group."

My immediate sarcastic response was "are you kidding me?" But the interesting thing is ... I have been thinking about this radio program all week.
 
Why?

Friendships are a tricky business, eh?

While I have never been "in the cool group", I have never felt intimidated by those that are. I want to get to know them, too, so I treat them like everyone else. 

I choose to barge into their lives, even if they are prettier, skinnier, smarter or any other _____er. 

          *I am friendly.
          *I smile.
          *I ask questions.
          *I invite them to my house for tea. 

Yes, I barge in. 

And guess what? They become dear friends. I have found that they are usually lonely. Other women are somewhat afraid of them.

How silly ... we all need each other.

And ... I discover that we are all cool.

"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another." John 13:34a

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20 comments:

  1. I never was and, at this stage of the game, can honesty say I'll never be cool or a member of any group that is remotely cool. I do like your tips, however. Have a great day, Glenda. Blessings...Mary

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  2. What a great post Glenda and so true, most of the people we feel intimidated by are usually feeling somewhat inferior themselves.

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  3. I love this post, Glenda! It's easy for us who aren't as "cool" to think those who are probably wouldn't want to get to know us... but, as you say, that's not true! Thanks for the great reminder. Love, Alison

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  4. It's crazy, crazy, we're all basically alike and who cares who is in the cool group. Just treat everyone the same, like you say and love one another...

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  5. Well put, Glenda. Thank you for sharing. How true!

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  6. Good for you ~ I am usually not that forward!

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  7. Beautiful. I have a feeling that most of us feel very "uncool," but once you get to know people, there's always something really cool and interesting about them. And YOU are especially great at loving people. :)

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  8. Well, honey, in my book you ARE cool. And rad. And wonderful. (Just to pull up a few adjectives from the 1970s!) Good for you for just diving in and for seeing people as PEOPLE, not cool or otherwise labeled. May your tribe increase.

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  9. I had someone tell me last week how they were dreading a social gathering because they weren't in the "cool" group. I've found many of the "cool" people are lonely.

    You are cool!

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  10. Ms. GG, I agree with Diana. I'm so very glad you are Glenda you are. Great post!

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  11. I love this post! I also wish I was as brave as you.... =)

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  12. I think you are incredibly cool...but I know what you mean. I am not, nor ever was, in the cool category. To me, it just all looks so exhausting!

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  13. Wow, what a surprising topic for a radio discussion. Who'd have thought? I don't know if I'm cool or not, but I have to admit that last night when our daughter arrived home with the manager from the store where she works, I cringed...because I was in my bathrobe. I shook her hand, looked her in the eye, and said, "I'm usually dressed much cooler than this." Haha!

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  14. Glenda you are about as cool as they come! Plus, you've led one of the most adventuresome lives I know of!

    The people show look the most together and happy often are wearing a mask. Their lives my not be at all what they seem from the outside!

    xoxo
    Karena
    2013 Artist Series:Anne Harwell

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  15. Glenda, you are my little wise person! I never try to engage the cool people who intimidate me. I wouldn't dare :( I'm as insecure as they are.

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  16. Glenda, it amazes me what intimidates people, even Christians. How easily we get our eyes off the Prize and on that which does not matter.

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  17. This is a great post, Glenda. And so true.

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  18. Not in the cool group here either. But they do scare me! Even still. And oh how I wish they didn't, but...

    Hope you are enjoying a wonderful summer. Back to school here next week! So sad about that. I will miss my sweet kiddos.
    Kate

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  19. How cool it that! You are too cool Miss Glenda! I think concern for others' insecurities goes a long way toward bridging the apparent gaps...

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  20. Oh...Glenda!!!!! I love this because it is so true. I have to admit, though, that I have longed to be in the "cool" group. As I get older I am more comfortable in my own skin, but at times I still get those feelings.
    Thank you for reminding me that we are all cool...an you are the coolest!

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