She was darling and tiny and friendly ... the nurse prepping me for my last (hallelujah) oral surgery. And when I asked her about her Christmas plans, she told me her mom had died one year ago and she still was not ready to celebrate Christmas.
We had the sweetest talk about that first Christmas without your loved one ... how you are in shock but you can always remember how hellish it was. And now her second one ... still so hard.
This beautiful Advent season, it is good to remember those that are grieving. They are all around us.
*in our homes
*in our neighborhoods
*in our grocery stores
*in our churches
*on our Facebook pages
*and yes, even in our oral surgery office
The year my friend, Dana, lost her husband in a plane crash and was facing her first Christmas with her three young boys, she told me that A Decembered Grief:Living with Loss while others are Celebrating was a help to her.
I love this passage from the book and I read it every December.
" After experiencing grief, loss and death, I have come to believe in a Christmas that cannot be limited to 24 hours on the 25th of December. I have come to believe in a future Christmas when all God's children will be home. I have come to believe that in our first moments in heaven we will realize how much He (Jesus Christ) gave up to spend those years among us, to invite us to spend forever with Him. I believe that His coming locked this world into a loving embrace and that this December season, He will be as close as our grief allows."
Who are you missing this season? (I am missing my adorable mom, Hallie) I will be praying for you.
Linking with Jen and the sweet Soli Sisters.