Monday, February 3, 2014

The Day I Spoke at Lucy's Memorial ... Before She Died

Lucy and I became friends ... right from the get go. She was in her mid 80's and I my early 50's. Lucy joined a small group that I was leading. (my favorite kind, by the way, as we also had women in their 20's, 30's and 40's)


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my friend, Lucy

Lucy came every week

           *dressed to the nines
       
           *with her Bible Study complete

           *and, a wonderfully sweet spirit, to boot.

Whenever I asked her how she was feeling  (even on days she was not feeling that well) she always said, "Sorry, I do not give organ recitals," and then she would ask about my week.

One afternoon, I got a call from Lucy, telling me that her lungs were failing and she did not have long to live. She asked me if I would speak at her funeral ... which she called her "graduation ceremony."

It would be my very sad joy to share about my friendship with this beautiful woman, whom we all loved so much. So I began to prepare my talk.

And then we decided to move to Seattle  and I hated calling Lucy to tell her my move date might precede her graduation. I had prepared my talk, and my dear friend, Kate, would deliver my little speech. 

I woke up early one morning with a Holy Spirit inspired idea ... go see Lucy one last time and deliver her graduation speech to her.

Now, I am not a person who can cry and talk at the same time, so Kate went with me. While she read my talk, Lucy and I held hands and cried through the whole speech. Then I prayed for her last days on earth and said goodbye.

It was beautiful. One of those "standing on holy ground" moments.

There is a sweet part in the novel, Fault in our Stars, where a bunch of high school students hold a funeral for their friend, before he dies. It reminded me of my time with Lucy.

May I suggest ... if you have a friend that is dying, plan a little "graduation party" and tell them what you will say at their funeral. It will mean so much to both of you.


 

23 comments:

  1. This is so wonderful. Thank you for reminding me of dear sweet Lucy. I loved her.

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  2. Absolutely lovely, Glenda. You were both blessed in that friendship.

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  3. What a lovely final gift, Glenda. Blessings...Mary

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  4. Wow. I love this. Probably helps greatly with closure too.

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  5. Glenda, this was most touching. My father passed away a couple of weeks ago, rather unexpectedly. We are having his memorial service on Sunday. I know that I will be speaking, and I am praying that the Lord will give me the right words to capture what I really feel.

    But most of all, I am glad that the Lord gave me some time with Dad before he passed, so that he and I could express some very important feelings. For that, I am so grateful.

    GOD BLESS!

    (Over from Soli Deo Gloria...)

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  6. First...I am so sorry about your loss...I appreciate that you included a picture of Lucy. It makes me feel a little closer.

    I did read this book and that part was very poignant. I agree, it would be a good thing to plan out eulogies. and words. I think for myself, I would do that. I have been to many funerals where the words from family members gave a whole different but accurate side of my loved one...it's a hard toss up.

    XO,
    Jane

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  7. So precious, my friend. This means a lot right now.

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  8. So glad that you were able to share with Lucy. We had a "celebration" planned for a friend. It was put together on a Sat. for the following Sat. Our friend passed before the celebration. So very true that we should take the time while they are yet here to let them know just how much they mean to us. I visited from Soli Deo Gloria this morning & am grateful that I did. Blessings!

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  9. What a beautiful gift to give a special friend. Thank you for sharing this. When we lost friends - husband and wife - in a plane crash many years ago I decided not to wait to tell people what they mean to me. Sharing it after they are gone is good, but sharing it with them so they know how you love them is the best!
    ~Adrienne~

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  10. Several friends wrote to my Dad expressing how his life impacted theirs before he died. I thought it was absolutely wonderful! Your account about your friend is so touching. Bless you, Glenda!

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  11. Glenda, this is a lovely account of a lovely act of service. Thank you!

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  12. Just makes me want to go visit some of the more frail people on my heart...thanks for sharing your tender tale, Glenda. It sounds as if your moves have stretched many of your love bonds...and yet you are open to always creating more. Lovely...

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  13. Great idea! That's what friends are for!

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  14. Glenda, this is so beautiful. And I love the thought of it being a graduation ceremony. So sorry for your loss.

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  15. This is a beautiful idea. Thanks for sharing a standing on holy ground moment. I look forward to meeting your friend in heaven --- she sounds quite precious. We should say more of this things when we know we have a chance, thanks for the reminder.

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  16. I, like you would need someone else to read it....plus a big box of tissues!! Great thought!

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  17. What a wonderful story Glenda! I am so glad that you were able to do this for your dear friend. Years ago a lady that I worked with landed in the hospital ~ something told me to take the time to go and visit her on Monday and I went and spent the afternoon and some of the evening with her ~ talking ~ telling stories and just being together. On Friday I got the call that she was gone. I thank God for the gentle nudge He gave me to take the time to go and see her. Because of it I had no regrets ~ these are the moments that stay with us.

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  18. This touches me in a very special way, Glenda. And just a great and wonderful idea. Thank you!

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  19. Lucy was a very precious and beautiful woman. And so are you, Glenda. I love your stories.

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  20. Lucy was a very precious and beautiful woman. And so are you, Glenda. I love your stories.

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  21. What a beautiful post Glenda, you area dear friend! We all need to think more about things like this instead of getting caught up in the here and now!

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  22. Wow what a sweet post. Thanks for sharing. I've been out of blog land for such a long time. I used to go by itsmrsthegreat. I just wanted to pop by and say hi as I rejoin blogland again :)

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